Let’s Get This Straight
All conceit aside, we ladies are blessed with an almost uncanny ability to detect when a brotha’ is on the prowl and/or interested. Whether it’s the slow two-step shuffle to get closer to “chat” or the blatant “So you girls gonna’ get crazy tonight?”, the buzzer goes on in our minds and we are essentially on alert mode all night for this homie who is just waiting to holla. But cute or not, sometimes we just want to cruise and not have to constantly worry about how we’re gonna say no this time around. Or some(most)times, we are just straight up NOT INTERESTED from the get-go. Simple as that. Whatever the reason, we gotta watch our own back just as much as we want to help our homegirls and homeboys, too.
Okay okay, so this graphic may be a bit harsh but let’s be real, not every single person is on the lookout for a steady relationship. But that doesn’t mean we have to relegate ourselves to being a snob either just to “put him in his place” so to speak or constantly have our guard up. There’s a nicer way of doing this, ladies. We need a happy medium which is the wingwoman. To save feelings getting hurt (nay, destroyed) we have to be up front from the get go. It’s better to put yourself in a position of do-gooder than total bitch for “leading him on” —whatever that means (guys are so sensitive nowadays).
Sometimes we need to bench ourselves for the good of the team but that doesn’t mean we have to be any less part of the game. Sometimes the assist is just as valuable as the shotmaker.
Play on playas.
